The past few days, I’ve been thinking about relationships between single men and women.
After typing that sentence, I was tempted to turn off the computer and be done writing because I don’t like to think about that topic and it is kind of difficult to write about something that you don’t like thinking about.
This topic came up the other day when a friend of mine asked me if I think it’s possible to be led of the Holy Spirit when it comes to romance.
Yes. Of course.
But I also believe that the heart is deceptive and is easily deceived.
I also believe that brains can get in the way — but they can sometimes be overlooked too — when it comes to things of the heart.
I know lots of people whose position on the matter is that Christians ought to have divinely orchestrated love affairs, wherein there is little input from the heart or mind.
You go on from day to day, waiting for some miraculous sign that The One has stepped into your world.
I asked my friend what would happen if The One turned out to be someone or something completely unexpected. What if he had some genetic defect that made him repulsive to look at? What if the divinely orchestrated love affair involved a prostitute like Hosea’s divinely orchestrated love affair did in the Bible? What if he wants you to help provide for the family and you’ve always dreamed of being a stay-at-home wife/mother?
Yes, divinely orchestrated love affairs can and do happen. But they are not without their fair share of practicalities, issues and problems that pop up. Because we are human, and no matter how close we get to Jesus, our humanity is always going to get thrown into the mix. At some point, someone is going to want what they want and want it NOW, and the other person is going to disagree. Somewhere along the line, there will be dirty socks on the floor, clogged toilets, screaming babies, and more bills than dollar bills. Life happens. People happen. Things happen.
And what are you going to do when life happens and the only thing you have connecting you to your spouse is the idea that God put you together?
Life is not a linear thing, no matter how stable you think you are. There are hills and valleys and corners and blind spots. When hills and valleys show up, what are you going to do? Is there going to be someone who’s got your back? Or will you be peacefully coexisting with a stranger?
When it comes to divinely orchestrated love affairs, there needs to be a balance between the spiritual, the emotional and the practical. Each is equally important because without an emotional connection and practical needs being met, there can’t be a spiritual connection.