30 Things to Accomplish in my 30s: Day 18
#18 As much as is possible, avoid sacrificing tact on the altar of truth.
What this means is that if it can’t be said kindly, it probably doesn’t need to be said.
This one comes and goes.
I stumbled across this article this evening and it explains beautifully how and why tact is sometimes absent in everyday conversations.
It’s because hurt people hurt people.
No, it’s not ok to hurt someone emotionally, physically, or any other way. It’s also not ok to use past (or present) pain as an excuse to inflict pain on someone else.
But, our own pain is the reason we speak and behave unkindly.
I suppose you could say that this goal could be reworded “deal with my pain so I can be a healer instead of a hurter.”
As I said before, it comes and goes.
Lately, things have been particularly painful and difficult and I’m sure I’ve been less than kind on several occasions.
And for that, to those I’ve hurt, I apologize.